FWB- - Is defined as two friends who are sexually involved without being in a relationship and without any emotional attachment. Now lets not get this confused with NSA because the two are very different. NSA (No Strings Attached) doesn't involve a friend but rather someone you've become acquainted with.
Let's say that you're just getting out of a relationship and is not really looking for anything serious. No commitment, no emotions just a friend with perks. Well that's where a FWB comes into play. With this you get the best of both worlds because you get to keep your friend and also engage in the fun stuff. The only thing with having a FWB, is that things may not go as planned. Either you start to catch feelings or your "friend" starts to catch feelings and this defeats the purpose because as a reminder, no emotions are supposed to be involved. One way to avoid this is to
"draw-the-line-in-the-sand" from the jump--don't prolong it or put it off! Do it at the very beginning. This helps to minimize and confusion. Let them know what it's going to be which is SEX ONLY and what it's not going to be which is A RELATIONSHIP. Some may even think of this as simply being a booty call and that you are just selling yourself short...we all have our own opinions. In this relationship you have to have the ability to disconnect your heart from your body. Pretty self explanatory.
Inevitably all good things must come to an end and this type of relationship is no exception. You just have to know when that time is. When feelings start to change and there is no more excitement, that may be your first clue.
This may work for some and not for others so proceed with caution!!! Not everyone is built to handle this type of relationship. For example, if you have trust issues, this may not be for you. Just keep in mind that outside of the bedroom, you are friends and friends only. You have no say so in their decisions! Also remember that friends with benefits are open and free to see other people.
"Sex without love is merely healthy excersise."-Robert A. Heinlein
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