FWB...Friends With Benefits

FWB- - Is defined as two friends who are sexually involved without being in a relationship and without any emotional attachment. Now lets not get this confused with NSA because the two are very different. NSA (No Strings Attached) doesn't involve a friend but rather someone you've become acquainted with.

Let's say that you're just getting out of a relationship and is not really looking for anything serious. No commitment, no emotions just a friend with perks. Well that's where a FWB comes into play. With this you get the best of both worlds because you get to keep your friend and also engage in the fun stuff. The only thing with having a FWB, is that things may not go as planned. Either you start to catch feelings or your "friend" starts to catch feelings and this defeats the purpose because as a reminder, no emotions are supposed to be involved. One way to avoid this is to
"draw-the-line-in-the-sand" from the jump--don't prolong it or put it off! Do it at the very beginning. This helps to minimize and confusion. Let them know what it's going to be which is SEX ONLY and what it's not going to be which is A RELATIONSHIP. Some may even think of this as simply being a booty call and that you are just selling yourself short...we all have our own opinions. In this relationship you have to have the ability to disconnect your heart from your body. Pretty self explanatory.


Inevitably all good things must come to an end and this type of relationship is no exception. You just have to know when that time is. When feelings start to change and there is no more excitement, that may be your first clue.

This may work for some and not for others so proceed with caution!!! Not everyone is built to handle this type of relationship. For example, if you have trust issues, this may not be for you. Just keep in mind that outside of the bedroom, you are friends and friends only. You have no say so in their decisions! Also remember that friends with benefits are open and free to see other people.



"Sex without love is merely healthy excersise."-Robert A. Heinlein

OMG...HIS SHOE SIZE MEANS NOTHING AT ALL...!!!

    Now I know the title of this post probably caught you off guard..I'm sure of it. Anyhoo, to get to the point, what do you do if your man comes up short? "Short of what?" you ask. Well, I mean short in the "man" department...
    Ok, so one of my friends had been involved in a serious relationship with her,now husband  for 2 years before they tied the knot about a month ago. Prior to getting married, she decided to stay celibate until their honeymoon. By making this decision, there was now way of her being able to try out the goods. So the night of their honeymoon, she calls me around 3:30 in the a.m. (I'm guessing after she tried the goods!) all hysterical. In the process of trying to calm her down, I finally got out of her the reason why she was so upset. All she kept saying was that "It's microscopic, it's microscopic!"  The term "microscopic" came from our younger days used to describe a certain anatomy on a male. I was speechless, but trying to muffle my laugh at the same time. (sorry!)
   I have absolutely no idea what I would do in this situation...probably run for the hills!!! I know that sex isn't the main part of a relationship, but come on now. I would say that 40% of it is love, trust and all that other good , mushy stuff and the other 60% of it is sexual compatibility/chemistry.

So CHIME in and let me know what you would do!

***Chime Time...

 

Fantasia - Lose to Win

"Sometimes you gotta lose to win again!"

A Relationship + Social Media = DISASTER!

Ok, now some would say, "How in the world can social media, such as Facebook, Twitter etc, be the cause of problems in a relationship?" Well let me tell you. First of all I feel Facebook has been ruing relationships since 2004 lol! (Just kidding..sort of!) From liking other females/males pictures to inboxing personal inappropriate messages are a few of the reasons why I feel this way. Now I will admit that sometimes people let social media have too much power over their feelings and relationships. This is because there is no way you can possible control what comes IN your partners inbox, but he/she can control what goes OUT!
From my personal experience there was a time where a guy sent a message to my inbox saying that he was interested in getting to know me and how beautiful I was. So, me being me, I went on his page to get some further info on him and BAM!! he had just posted a picture of him and his family and saying how he was so in love..???? Yeah I know right! So that just goes to show, that just because your partner may post lovey dovey things on their page about you and their feelings for you, their inbox can be saying something totally different! With that being said now its........Chime Time!


CHIME TIME:
So now I would like to know how you all feel about social media and the impact it has on relationships...if at all! Does this mean that your relationship is not as strong as it should be. Would this fall into the category of "Trust Issues?"